Getting Collaborative

May 24, 2017 by Sue McArthur

Getting Collaborative

You need to ensure that you are in the right frame of mind to make the most of any 4 Way, 5 Way or 6 Way meeting.

These ideas to assist you in getting collaborative may seem simple but they can be very helpful in making each meeting a more positive one:

  • Think positively about what you want to achieve – if you have already done an Anchor Statement then take 5 or 10 minutes to sit and read it – and your partner’s if you have a copy
  • Make a List of things that you want to say – as the meeting progresses you can add more items
  • Try and stay calm – take some deep breaths
  • Make arrangements for after the meeting – perhaps try and meet a supportive friend or family member to debrief/offload
  • Plan your journey and allow sufficient time – there is nothing worse than arriving late and flustered
  • Try to relax the night before and sleep well; make sure that you eat something before the meeting
  • Try to avoid slipping into old habits and saying things to aggravate the situation or hurt/upset your partner
  • Try and see things from your partner’s perspective – if you can!
  • It’s easy to see the negative in statements made by your partner – strive to look for the good/positive
  • If you need some time – ask your lawyer – there should always be a break out room available for you – or take a walk around the block

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Sue McArthur