May 24, 2017 by Sue McArthur
You need to ensure that you are in the right frame of mind to make the most of any 4 Way, 5 Way or 6 Way meeting.
These ideas to assist you in getting collaborative may seem simple but they can be very helpful in making each meeting a more positive one:
- Think positively about what you want to achieve – if you have already done an Anchor Statement then take 5 or 10 minutes to sit and read it – and your partner’s if you have a copy
- Make a List of things that you want to say – as the meeting progresses you can add more items
- Try and stay calm – take some deep breaths
- Make arrangements for after the meeting – perhaps try and meet a supportive friend or family member to debrief/offload
- Plan your journey and allow sufficient time – there is nothing worse than arriving late and flustered
- Try to relax the night before and sleep well; make sure that you eat something before the meeting
- Try to avoid slipping into old habits and saying things to aggravate the situation or hurt/upset your partner
- Try and see things from your partner’s perspective – if you can!
- It’s easy to see the negative in statements made by your partner – strive to look for the good/positive
- If you need some time – ask your lawyer – there should always be a break out room available for you – or take a walk around the block
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